Punch Puppies In The Face

I know I can’t be the only one around here that hates negativity. In fact, a while back I wrote a blog about how much I want to punch Debbie in the face. Maybe I’m a freak of nature, but I tend to see the “good” in what might appear to be a bad situation. I’m rarely one to sulk, beg for pity, or blab someones ear off about “how difficult my life is”.

Whenever I feel even an ounce of cynicism come over me, I make a conscious effort to remind myself how good I have it. Fortunately, the majority of my friends and family are all pretty happy people. Unfortunately, I have a few acquaintances that don’t quite share in my enthusiasm for life.

I have developed a strategy for dealing with negative people. It’s extremely simple and rather effective. All ya have to do with Negative Nancy is agree with her when she is complaining about something. After all, If you try and offer a word of encouragement, it’s not like she’s not going to listen…right? So, why don’t you spare yourself some frustration and concede to Nancy’s point.

For example: Nancy gets upset with you because you don’t call her as much as she thinks you should. Instead of trying to argue with her, tell her “You’re right Nancy. I sucked at calling you. I’m a terrible friend.” This leaves Nancy with nothing else to say. Heck, she might even end up admitting you really aren’t a bad friend. Booya for playing Jedi-mind tricks on Nancy.

I’d like to leave you with a funny little story…

An avid duck hunter was in the market for a new bird dog. His search ended when he found a dog that could actually walk on water to retrieve a duck. Shocked by his find, he was sure none of his friends would ever believe him.

He decided to try to break the news to a friend of his, a pessimist by nature, and invited him to hunt with him and his new dog.

As they waited by the shore, a flock of ducks flew by. they fired, and a duck fell. The dog responded and jumped into the water. The dog, however, did not sink but instead walked across the water to retrieve the bird, never getting more than his paws wet. This continued all day long; each time a duck fell, the dog walked across the surface of the water to retrieve it.

The pessimist watched carefully, saw everything, but did not say a single word.

On the drive home the hunter asked his friend, “Did you notice anything unusual about my new dog?”

“I sure did,” responded the pessimist. “Your dog can’t swim”

How do you deal with negative people? Any special tactics or tricks? Any people particularly close to you that always try and bring you down? A lot of women frequently battle with a poor self-image… What’s the best way for us men to snap you out of it?

p.s. Click here to watch an awesome video about a couple that found good in a “bad” situation.
Warning: It’s a tear jerker.

Punch Debbie In the Face

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Now I’m not one to support physical violence towards women, but I’ll tell you right now if Debbie Downer ever finds her way around my neck of the woods, I’m gonna knock her out. For those of you that don’t know Debbie, let me introduce you to her. She is the person that points out the one stain on your carpet after you just cleaned your whole house. She’s the girl that that  reminds you of your love handles after you just got back from a run. Debbie is a professional mood killer. Debbie is a downer.

I’m a huge believer in the power of positive psychology. Penn State defines positive psychology as the scientific study of the strengths and virtues that enable individuals and communities to thrive. I define positive psychology as an inherit desire to be AWESOME. I consider myself to be a pretty positive ninja. For example, I’m positive that I hate negative people.

I have a goal to have $6MM in my bank account when I retire. I can’t tell you how many people say “It’s nice that you ‘think’ you’ll have that much, but what if….you lose your job…. your accounts don’t provide the returns you anticipate… you have unforeseen medical issues ” Umm excuse me, don’t be bringing your “what ifs” around here, I don’t need them. Maybe the stock market will crumble, maybe I’ll lose my job, and maybe I will contract gonorrhea of the mouth, but I’m sure as heck not going to live my life waiting to see if those things happen.

Look here Debbie Downer, I have goals and your negativity can’t keep me from reachin’ them. Do you all know someone that seems to be a professional mood killer? Someone that always finds something to complain about?  How do you deal with them? I just don’t have the patience to tolerate it and I just tell them if they want to be negative they need to go do it somewhere else. Life’s too short, don’t be a Debbie Downer.