For many of you, December 25th was probably your favorite day this Christmas season. For me, however, today is hopefully not just going to be the best day the season, but possibly one of the best days of my life. I’m gonna cut to the chase. Today I will be proposing to Girl Ninja. Proposing, as in like marriage, not proposing that she invests in a Roth IRA (although I think she should).
I’ve been waiting for December 28th to come for about six months now. I bought Girl Ninja’s diamond in June and have been secretly hiding it in my computer desk drawer since then. I had “the talk” with future Father-Ninja-In-Law over thanksgiving break, and received his blessing. With all signals go, that meant I had the green light to proceed.
Tomorrow I’ll share the propsal details, but today I want to talk a little bit about my relationship with Girl Ninja. Our story hasn’t been the fairy tale we often read about in books and see in movies, but ya wanna know what it has been….real. Too often we are told love is magical, that it comes naturally, that it is a feeling, that it is perfect. That’s a bunch of bullcrap. Love takes a lot of work, it’s complicated, messy, but in the end, well worth it. Ya see, love is not about “What can my girlfriend do for me?” Instead it’s “How can I love my girlfriend better?” Love is selfless, not selfish.
I want to spend the rest of my life with Girl Ninja because she respect’s me. She honors the man that I am, rather than trying to turn me into someone I’m not. She endures my imperfections and shortcomings, without complaint. She loves me selflessly, not for her benefit, but for mine.
Ya see love isn’t a feeling. I don’t believe in “falling in love”, instead I believe you have to “work for love”. Few good things come without effort, love is no exception. I know Girl Ninja and I will face tough times, I know there will be days we don’t really wanna be around each other, but guess what…. that’s okay. I am committed to loving Girl Ninja. To being the man that she deserves. To work every day to win her love. To put her needs before mine.
I want to grow old with Girl Ninja, and after today I will be one step closer to making that happen (assuming she says “Yes!”). Ya may not be getting any personal finance today, but I believe this topic is of equal importance. What are your thoughts on love? Why do marriages fail? And for the married folks, any insight you have for me is greatly appreciated.