How to increase your self-trust

Leading with your finances can be a bit disappointing and a long day of money planning may be very consuming. How to keep going when your bank account is not as satisfying as you wish? And most important, how to keep your head up and get things on place despite all odds? We want to help you with those questions.

Celeste “LadyMaCe86” Orona once said: “Sometimes you need to trust yourself and ignore the rest around you because ‘haters gonna hate’ no matter what you do.” She was lamenting about nosy people who assumed not working traditional hours made her a lazy 30-year-old who sponged off her parents. So, in response, she ignored the hateful and ignorant comments by other people. Advice for us all. So, taking a page from Orona, here are several things that you can do when you want to be successful, starting with forgetting about what other people think and trusting yourself.

  1. Dare to be Different

Why is being different such a cause of concern for people on the outside looking in when in fact, the most successful people in the world are the ones who live life on their terms? Even though she was told that she was not going to make it, Orona remained steadfast and enthusiastic about quitting her nine-to-five job to make a complete career change. Like Orona, people who succeed do not focus on pleasing others or meeting traditional benchmarks for achievement. In a quote attributed to Einstein, he says “Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing it is stupid.”

Successful people always stand out. Such people do things differently while everyone else considers them eccentric, even outrageous. Elon Musk made millions off PayPal, yet in a direction that almost derailed its success, he then invested in two unrelated start-ups: Tesla and SpaceX. The rest is history — in the making.  

  1. See Failure as an Option

Successful people are not afraid of failure or doing things that didn’t work the first time. If you fail once, that doesn’t mean you should give up on your dreams. The Wright brothers failed time and time again until December 17, 1903 when they wrote their name in history. What did they do differently? They never gave up. Frustration should not change the vision nor the prize.

In the 1990s, Sir Richard Branson went up against mega-brands Coca-Cola and Pepsi with Virgin Cola. You’ve probably never heard of it.  Coke and Pepsi injected even more of their vast resources into marketing and pressured distributors to reject Branson’s product. The Virgin Group has no shortage of failed products, Virgin Cola included, but Branson recognizes that failure is not unavoidable. He maintains that valuable lessons are learned from flops.

  1. Let Rejection Make You Stronger

The successful people who overcame rejection are unapologetically passionate about what they do. J.K. Rowling ignored the rejection letters for “Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone.” In 1919, Walt Disney was fired from his job at a newspaper for being devoid of imagination and not having any solid ideas. This is what Disney said about failure:

“I think it’s important to have a good hard failure when you’re young…because it makes you kind of aware of what can happen to you. Because of it, I’ve never had any fear in my whole life when we’ve been near collapse and all of that. I’ve never been afraid.”

In a bizarre example of rejection, we have Steve Jobs who, in 1985, was fired by the company he created. He became CEO of Pixar Animation Studios and NeXt in that period. Ten years later when he returned to Apple, the iPod and other signature Apple innovations were released.

Stephen King put all the rejection letters he received for his writing on a nail on the wall. By age 14, he had to graduate to a spike as the nail was too small to hold all the rejection letters, yet he kept on writing. His book “Carrie” was rejected 30 times, almost prompting him to give up. But King’s wife took it out of the trash and convinced him to resubmit it. “Carrie” is now regarded as an icon of horror literature.

  1. Quash Self-Doubt

Do you ever feel like you are successful without deserving it? Do you find it difficult to accept praise? Are you unable to celebrate your achievements? Such self-doubt is called imposter syndrome, which prevents people from moving forward and succeeding. However, successful people can quash that little voice of self-doubt. These are the Bill Gates, the Richard Branson and the Oprah Winfrey of the world who take risks. Success is a mindset that doesn’t fizzle into nothingness when you reach the goal; it is part of you.

  1. Have a Plan

Sometimes you are your biggest enemy, which is why it is critical to have a plan, stay focused on that plan and ignore the rest. Have your plan written down somewhere you can look at it every day to remind yourself. And surround yourself with the positive few hidden in the crowd of the negative many.

  1. Find a Quiet Place

It’s hard to think when phones are ringing, with all the social media distractions, but those mundane activities can wait. Find a quiet place where you can strategize without interruption and visualize what you want your future to look like.

Finding success is not complex if you visualize it, write it down and keep it nearby. But you do have to ignore the naysayers and outsiders because they are not privy to your vision. And remember, failure should not be viewed as a reason to stop trying. Herman Melville (1819–1891), author of “Moby Dick,” said it succinctly: “It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.”

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