We had a bunch of high school kids over for a summer kickoff party last night and for some reason they all had baby fever. Not that they want to have babies (if that was the case I’m pretty sure Girl Ninja and I would be horrible youth group leaders) but that they want Girl Ninja and I to have babies. They were seriously obsessed with the idea of us having kids just so they can babysit.
After about the 100th time of being asked when we would get pregnant I responded by saying…
“Right now, but first we need you all to leave.”
I believe their response was something along the lines of “Ewwwwwwwww” and I’m pretty sure Girl Ninja wanted to kill me, but I thought it was a pretty clever response. Needless to say, no one else asked us that question for the rest of the night. #Winning.
But here I am, a few hours later, thinking about the question “When are GN and I going to make a Baby Ninja?” Is it really that simple? Do I just decide when it happens, like I get to decide what color shirt I’m going to wear to work tomorrow?
Forgive me if I’m wrong, but don’t we just get to decide when we go off birth control, and let nature do the rest?
I feel like asking a couple when they are going to get pregnant is like asking…
- … a middle school boy when his voice is going to stop cracking
- … a middle-aged woman when she will start menopause
- … an old person when they are going to die
What if it’s not as simple as just getting pregnant when we choose?
I actually think about this when we go house hunting. We don’t want to buy a two bedroom because that wont leave much space if we have kids. But I also don’t want to buy a four bedroom, only to find out we are physically incapable of getting pregnant.
The unused bedrooms and living space would be a constant reminder of our shattered dreams.
We have friends that got pregnant with identical twins while she was on birth control, and friends who spent four years doing everything they could to get pregnant. We have ideas of when we’d like to begin growing our family, but these real world examples are reminders that it’s really not up to us.
So now I turn the mic over…
- For those of you that have kids, how “easy” was getting pregnant? Did you pretty much decide you wanted to start having kids, and find yourself pregnant within a couple of weeks/months?
- For those without kids, do you ever put serious thought in to the idea of “What if we can’t get pregnant?” like I have when we look at four bedroom homes?
- For those that don’t want kids, what’s your favorite cereal? Sorry, couldn’t think of anything relevant to ask you :p