My 8th most commented on blog post of all time is titled “I think I’m sexist.” That post includes a scanned questionnaire I filled out (during premarital counseling) in regards to who should perform what household duties. Here’s that questionnaire in case you didn’t catch it the first time…
Most of you thought my responses were pretty sexist (and rightfully so). I tend to have a much more “leave it to beaver” view of how I’d like my household to be run, than the typical person. Fortunately, Girl Ninja was likeminded (for the most part) so there was no real drama when we went over these tasks.
So how did it turn out for us? Is Girl Ninja making the bed and doing all the grocery shopping as I desired? HECK NO! The reality is, I’m doing far more chores than I could have ever imagined. There is one primary factor that is throwing off my leave it to beaver dream; Girl Ninja works a helluva lot harder than I do. And I’m not scared to admit it!
Most of you know, I have the incredible luxury of working in my underwear, errr, I mean working from home. Girl Ninja however, works at a zoo, with 24 wild animals, aka kindergarteners. She typically leaves the house around seven each morning and gets home between five and six.
Since I work from home, and my job is eleventy-billion times less stressful, it’s only right that I take on more household responsibilities. Yes, I’m turning in my man card, and learning how to be more domestic. Making the bed, doing the dishes, and even ::gasp:: doing the laundry are some of the newest additions to my resume.
While it was a tough pill to swallow at first, it’s time to man up and serve my wife by minimizing the amount of crap she has to do when she comes home. How big of a tool (see image below) would I have to be expect Girl Ninja bust her a$$ at work all day, only to come home to a sink full of dishes and a disheveled bed?
There are still a few things, however, I try and avoid. Specifically, anything invovling food. I hate grocery shopping, I’m not the greatest cook, and I couldn’t bake a cake to save my life, so when it comes to food preparation, Girl Ninja is in charge. The only thing I’m good for, when it comes to food is eating it, Yeah…I’m real good at that!
Once Girl Ninja transitions from teacher to stay at home mom, we can re-evaluate who does what around the house. But as long as she is working 50+hours a week, I’m going to shut my mouth, wash as many dishes as necessary, and like every second of it.
Who typically does what in your house? Are there any chore role reversals in your house (i.e. man does all baking, or woman mows the lawn)? Anything you wish your partner did that you always find yourself doing?