Last month I asked for PDITF readers to submit stories about how they’re doing. I was amazed by the feedback I received, overwhelmed even. Far more people expressed interest in contributing to the series than I anticipated. I couldn’t keep up with all the emails and submissions I was getting, so I avoided them instead (Haha, like a true Ninja right?). I added the emails to my “To Do” list and haven’t paid much attention to them. I’m just now taking the time to look ’em over and get things worked out (sorry for the procrastination).
Today we are kicking the series off with BR, a woman who doesn’t necessarily agree with her husband on how their six figure income should be allocated…
My name is BR, and I have been married to DH (dear husband) for about 18 months.
Together, DH and I make $100,500 before taxes. After taxes, 401(k) contributions, insurance and all that come out of our checks, we usually take home just over $62,000 a year. We both can get yearly bonuses (last year, I didn’t get one, but my husband got $8,000) and my husband gets a Christmas bonus at the end of each year, usually the amount of one paycheck, but again, this isn’t guaranteed, so I don’t count it as income.
- Car loan- about $12,000
- Truck loan- $16,000
- My student loan- $8,900
- Husband’s student loan- $26,700
- Total debt: $63,600
When we got married, we had about $15,000 of credit card debt between the two of us. We set a goal to pay it off before our first anniversary, and actually did it two months ahead of schedule (thanks mostly to my husbands bonus)! We were both really relieved to be out from under that debt, but we completely disagreed on what to do next.
If I had my way, we would never go out to eat or buy anything that we don’t NEED until we have everything paid off. It would only take a year and a half, and then we would be free and clear! My husband feels like this is not reasonable, since all the debt is low-interest (what he calls ‘good debt’) and both our vehicles are worth more than what we owe on them. His bigger priority is saving for a house, since he feels that paying rent every month is throwing away money. He also thinks that going out to eat is fun and relaxing (I think he’s just trying to get out of doing the dishes :)) and he loves to go to the movies.
So, we compromised. We put $900 a month in our house fund, and then I pay whatever extra I can find in our budget on my student loan. We go out to eat once a week, and we each get $20 a week to spend on whatever we want. My $20 usually goes toward my student loan, but I also use it to thrift shop or get a haircut occasionally. While I would love to have my way, I am able to compromise with this, because our debt is no longer at a point where it keeps me up at night, like it did when we first got married. If push came to shove, we could sell our cars and reduce our debt to only student loans. Also, watching the balance on our savings account go up is super fun, and it is comforting to know that right now we could live for two months with what we have.
Really, we are not in a bad place at all. We spend much less than we earn, we save a decent amount, and we are working on paying off our debts. I get impatient, and really want to ‘punch debt in the face’, but at the end of the day I would rather have a peaceful marriage than no debt.
Ninja’s comment: If you want to submit your story for the “How you doing” series, shoot me an email.