We’re pregnant…. with joy.

Girl Ninja and I are pregnant. Pregnant with feelings of joy, love, excitement, and a little bit of fear. What could bring on such emotions? Probably the fact that…




We’re pregnant with a human fetus baby child thingy.




No seriously. I’m not joking. According to some Doctor lady, I’ll be going from Debt Ninja to Dad Ninja on June 18th. Freakin’ crazy. Allow me to summarize my feelings with a FAQ…

When did you find out? 

Five days before I left for Europe, so late October.

Describe the emotions associated with finding out you were pregnant. 

To be totally honest, it was nowhere near as significant a moment as I would have envisioned. In the movies people seem either overjoyed or totally wrecked by the revelation that they are pregnant.

Girl Ninja and I were just kind of like “Oh, we’re pregnant. Hmmm, okay, cool.” And then I went outside to do yard work.

How long did you wait to tell your family? 

Girl Ninja and I guessed we were about six weeks when we found out in late October. Normally we would have waited for the first doctors appointment to tell our family, but since I was leaving the country for six weeks, we decided to tell them before I left.

How did you tell your family? 

Since it was just before Halloween we took two Pumpkins from our house and made them look like this…



We then took the pumpkins to Girl Ninja’s parent’s house, knocked on their door holding our pumpkins, and recorded their reaction as the light bulb went off (sorry the video is sideways)…

Were you trying to get pregnant? 

Not exactly. We clearly weren’t being über proactive in preventing the possibility, but we definitely weren’t trying to get pregnant.

How do you feel about it now? 

Freakin’ pumped man. I made Girl Ninja go to Baby Gap with me the other day just to check out baby outfits. Apparently, kids clothes aren’t cheap. Forty bucks for a sweater? No way. Looks like Baby Gap via the Thrift Store is more likely for our child 😉

What will Girl Ninja do after delivery? 

We have impeccable timing and the baby is due to arrive six days after Kindergarten graduation (she’s a teacher). She’ll continue to get paid through the summer and wont be going back in the fall. We’ve always planned on her being able to be a stay-at-home mom, and fortunately that can be a reality for us. Losing her income will suck mucho, but not enough to consider her continuing to work full-time. She may substitute teach a few days a month just to stay in the school system.

Will you be blogging a lot about being a Dad? 

Heck yes, but don’t worry, it won’t be like those mommy blogging sites. Instead of pictures of cute crafts and baby room decorations, I’ll write posts on how many times our kid vomited on me in a single day or how to use duct tape to minimize poopy diaper blowouts.

How’s Girl Ninja feeling? 

She’s lucky. She’s coming up on 16 weeks pregnant and hasn’t had more than a few instances of passing nausea. Nothing a few crackers and a glass of water didn’t immediately cure. As much as I wish I could hold her hair back while she throws up in our toilet, that doesn’t seem to be in the cards. Aside from feeling a bit tired, she’s pretty much same ol Girl Ninja, cute as a button 😉

Alright, that’s all I got for now. I’ll keep y’all updated on this whole path to parenthood. Maybe even live tweet the delivery…kidding. Hopefully being a dad doesn’t mean I have to grow up 😉

Does life get worse?

I remember being in my Junior year of high school, loving every minute of it, thinking to myself “This is the best time of my life. It’s all downhill from here.” 

Then I went to college in San Diego and watched the sunset over the ocean every night for four years and thought to myself “Wow, this is the best season of life ever. I never want to graduate.”

Then I graduated, got a sweet job, and got to prove to myself I could make it as a productive member of society. I was having just as much fun as I did in college, but wasn’t quite as broke and no longer had homework. WIN!

And now, here I am, six years out of college, married, a new homeowner, about to become a puppy parent, loving every minute, wondering does it get even better?


I have loved just about every phase of life, except middle school – honestly what person enjoyed middle school?


Contrary to my feelings about the future, life has always seemed to get progressively better. I’m shocked I love being 28 more than I loved being 18!


Our financial situation has followed suit. Six years ago I was a fresh-out-of-college graduate making $13/hour with a staggering $28,000 debt load. Every year since then has been better than the last, resulting in a quarter-million dollar gain. That’s insane to me.

I hope this doesn’t come across as bragging. That is not at all my intention. Thankfulness and awe are probably better indications of how I feel. I don’t expect things to get better, but somehow they always have.


It’s mind-boggling really.


Parenting is likely the next phase of life I’ll find myself in. I’m skeptical that it will be better than this current season, but hey, when I was graduating college I remember almost crying at the thought of having to work for the next 40 years. But here I am today, so thankful I don’t have to sit through another History 101 lecture, cram on a Sunday night, or touch a Scantron ever again.

Is this normal?

What would you say your favorite season of life was? Are you like me and each phase only gets better? Or is there a phase that finally makes you long for how it used to be?

Did they forget to charge me?

So Girl Ninja came out and visited me in Europe over the last week. We rented a car for personal use and spent the last 10 days playing tourist whenever I didn’t have to work. We spent time in Bruges, Aachen, Maastricht, and Amsterdam.

It was glorious. 

On Friday morning, we dropped our rental car off at the airport in Amsterdam and spent the weekend wandering the city (Girl Ninja didn’t fly out until Sunday).

Side note: In case you were wondering, you don’t even have to be in the Red Light District to happen upon mostly naked women dancing in front of windows, attempting to solicit customers. Definitely made the after-dinner-walk interesting as Girl Ninja kept saying, “Ew, don’t look.” Haha.


Like I said, we dropped the car off on Friday morning, and here I am typing this, Monday Night, and I still haven’t been charged for the rental.

What gives? 

When I picked the car up a pending charge was placed on my card immediately. The agent explained it was customary for them to place a hold for double the cost of the rental until the car is returned.

There is no hold. There is no pending charge. Did the rental car agency forget to charge me? 

I did forget to top the car off before I brought it back to the airport. Instead of returning her with a full tank, she sat at about 3/4. Perhaps they delay the billing until they get around to fueling her? But it shouldn’t take them four days to get around to that, should it?

What if I never get charged? 

Must I tattle on myself and demand they let me give them my money? I mean, I’ve given them my credit card information three times now. Once when I booked the reservation, once when I picked the car up, and again when I dropped it off. What more could I possibly do aside from go to the ATM, take money out, put it in an envelope, and mail it directly to the European rental car agency’s HQ with a note explaining why they are getting $500 mailed to them?

I suspect in the next few days the charge WILL appear on my statement. I still want to know why it’s taken so long. I make thousands upon thousands of transactions each year, but I’ve never had something like this happen before.

Have you?

p.s. Here’s some shots of our trip 🙂

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p.p.s. Yes Girl Ninja’s name is Lauren, but if you saw us on the Steve Harvey Show, you already knew that 😉

Answer this question….

What’s the most expensive emergency you’ve ever had?

Good question right? If you’re like me you’re lucky enough to have never really had an emergency. I think my answer is $0.

I know one day we will have to tap our $10,000 Efund for a medical, car, or home issue, I dread that day. But until said emergency comes, I’m going to vicariously live through your stories.

Do tell. 🙂

Christmas in a BIG family

Get excited for a post from GIRL NINJA!!!!!!….

santa christmas

It’s the most, wonderful time, of the year (except for the summertime).  I LOVE Christmas.   The smells, the music, the decorations, the lights, the joy, the greatest gift of all time…I just love it all.  I get it from my mom.  She is obsessed- I’m not kidding.  Our whole house was transformed top to bottom with everything Christmas during the month of December when I was growing up.  Along with that, we have traditions upon traditions that are celebrated.  One of them….spoiler alert…is that we would open gifts on Christmas Eve.

Almost all of them.

This really gets to Ninja.  He doesn’t get it, doesn’t understand it, and doesn’t care for it. But, he loves me, and he follows our tradition for the sake of tradition.

Now that we’re all grown up, things have started to change.  Within the last 3 years, 3 out of the 4 of us girls (yes, I grew up with 3 sisters, no brothers) have gotten married, and my oldest sister recently had a baby.

The more the merrier, right?

WELL…that is until we make our Christmas shopping list. Now before some of you commenters get all Scrugey on me, we love to give gifts in our family, especially these types of giftsThere is more joy in the giving, than in the receiving for our family. This is especially true now that we are all older, and a little less selfish.

That said, a big family, a big GROWING family, means a big BIG GROWING list of gifts to purchase each year.  It can become quite overwhelming.  All in all, there are 10 people in my immediate family.  Then, we have Ninja’s side of the family (another four),  close friends, and volunteer gifts for those that work in my classroom.


Unfortunately, that’s not really practical. I’ve talked with my sisters and instead of getting each of them gifts this year, we are drawing names and will only be assigned one person.  It’s new, it’s different, it’s not tradition…but if it goes well enough, it might be!

Instead of buying 10 gifts, I’ll buy one gift, and Ninja will buy one gift. We have a larger budget for our gift recipient, which will really broaden my gift giving horizons. So fun!  Not to mention, I think Ninja will be happier as this new plan saves everyone money and there is no more insane hunt for that perfect gift for each of our family members.

How do you (would you) handle Christmas in a big family?  Are we the only family that still gives gifts pretty religiously?How do you tame your Xmas budget?